Letting go is not an easy process, it requires a practice that produces results and a commitment to continue delving inward so we can release deeper and deeper attachments. We all heal differently but know that there is something out there for you. Be bold, courageous, find a practice that suits you and meets you where you are at. Healing will come to those who seek it.
Acknowledgment is the recognition of the existence of something.
In order for us to start the healing process we want to recognize what we have to heal. What typically happens in this phase is the tendency to deny or suppress (It didn’t happen), to dismiss the importance (It’s not a big deal), to justify (finding the reason for whatever happened), to shift the awareness (focus on the future, not the past), blame (finding someone at fault).
Oftentimes even after acknowledging the trauma we still are not ready to start the healing. Our primitive brains perceive change as threatening or dangerous even if we think that what we're looking to change is of benefit to us. Our brain is designed to keep us alive, it focuses on survival, and it isn't concerned with what's best or what's good for us. We find comfort in these old patterns and beliefs because they're familiar, they give us a sense of certainty about who we are and what life looks like. We know who we are here. To give that up means to give up familiarity, so it's normal to feel resistance around that.
Resistance is “the act or power of resisting, opposing, or withstanding”, or in psychiatry: “Opposition to attempt to bring repressed thoughts or feelings into consciousness” .
As we start any self-healing journey, it's natural to be afraid of facing what we've been repressing. Suffering is the known world we live in, to unlearn that normality is scary and can seem like an impossible mountain to climb.
It makes sense that we resist challenging emotions and feelings. There are certain things, like pain, we don’t want to feel! However, thinking that resisting and suppressing is the best way to get rid of the pain is an illusion. The truth is that pain is an unavoidable part of life, though suffering is always optional.
We always have a choice. We can stay in resistance or shift to acceptance.
Acceptance is the act letting go of the need to control, judge, and wish things were different than they are. It is clearly recognizing our feelings in the present moment and regarding that experience with compassion.
Acceptance is necessary for your healing process. To practice acceptance, you must acknowledge all of the uncomfortable parts of yourself: your emotions, your thoughts, and your past.
As we grow and practice self - acceptance, we accept others. When we make peace with the fact that everything is exactly the way it is supposed to be in the present moment, we can make peace with the variables of life, including other people. As we learn to accept and make peace with the way things are in this very moment,we step forward on the path to healing and growth.
Acceptance is a skill that requires practice. When we accept, we allow ourselves to experience all thoughts and feelings. Without judgment, we allow ourselves to be frustrated, disappointed, sad, fearful, or whatever other feeling. Practicing acceptance every day fortifies self-compassion and prepares us for most difficult experiences.
The ego believes that if we accept this moment, nothing will ever change. Acceptance does not equal resignation. In fact, the opposite is true - only when we let go of the need for things to be different…can things actually change.
REMEMBER: Transformation starts with total acceptance of WHAT IS!